As the old saying
goes, ‘To err is human, to forgive is divine’. Going forward, you could regard
this proverb as - ‘To err is human, to learn from it is divine’.
Making errors is perfectly normal, however, it is paramount that we also learn how to gather radical insights from our mistakes, and consequently, direct the experience not towards self-loathing, but towards personal growth. This skill will prove to be one of the most useful and comforting skills both in your everyday life and your professional development. It will provide you with a new outlook on life! Reflecting on the causes and results as objectively as possible will render your decision-making to be more cautious, conscientious, and capable of overcoming potential errors.
Sometimes it can be hard to face our failure directly, and yet it is a necessary step towards self-growth.
Why is self-reflection so important?
Developing a habit of
gathering radical insights from your failures or shortcomings allows you to use
every single situation as a scaffolding for self-improvement. Some people
believe that a human being is a sum of their failures and successes. More
importantly, improving your ways would be impossible if you never had the
opportunity to see how you are mistaken. In the end, a mistake is only a
mistake if we do not put in the time and the energy to fix it.
Once you are aware of your internal urges and faults, you are equipped to analyze yourself and your acts both subjectively and objectively. The goal in this journey towards complete self-awareness is to apply this knowledge to understand others as well as how to understand yourself.
When you reach this state of mind, it will be beneficial both in your personal and professional relationships. It is rarely the case that a skill can be both deeply spiritual and pragmatic, but once you observe your behavior from this perspective, you will learn soon enough that this is, in fact, the case.
What are these radical insights that promote self-growth?
Deeply radical and novel insights of the sort we have mentioned are a
product of our interaction with every facet and domain of our day to day life.
It is not entirely true that only radical mistakes lead to radical revelations.
However, it cannot be denied that certain events in our lives, such as the
death of a loved person, the birth of our children, migration to another city
or country, transition to a different profession, etc. leave the most
significant trace on our minds, hearts, and personalities.
Moreover, seemingly minor mistakes, events, or changes can also provide a fertile ground for self-growth. For instance, when relocating to a completely new space, people frequently become overwhelmed, and irritable to other people around them. In such stressful situations, it may be challenging to realize that our family or co-workers are suffering due to our self-centeredness and lack of self-reflection. At times, it is even difficult to recognize that we are in the wrong. In those moments, it’s so difficult to develop the habit of self-reflecting even when you are certain that you are not the one who is at fault.
It is precisely due to such oversight that it is essential to develop the habit of gaining insights from our failures and shortcomings. In fact, it does not take a trip to some exotic place or spiritual get-away to expand our capacity to self-reflect on our mistakes. Deriving insights got to be ingrained into our daily lives to help us when making our decisions and planning our future. Consider your capacity to self-reflect as a system of checks and balances that will stall the choices prompted by selfishness and personal ego.
We need to keep in mind the extent of the influence that we have on the people that surround us. Each individual life is a matrix of benevolent and malevolent actions, words, and relationships. However, the traditional dichotomy of good and evil usually does not hold in everyday situations such as your relationship with your staff or co-workers.
Most failures to establish a productive and cooperative environment stem from forgetfulness in the form of:
· Forgetting the
wants and needs of the people around us
· Negligence of
our duties and responsibilities
· Ignoring to
focus on our priorities
For this reason, it is crucial to keep in mind that our actions need to be motivated not by self-interest, but by the realization that so many people rely on us and look up to us.
Characteristics of an insightful person
A fundamental
characteristic of an insightful person is that he/she always holds the
postulates of mindful behavior as fundamental truths in their work-life. An
insightful individual is a teacher and a student at the same time. This means
that an insightful individual has the capacity to be mindful of everything
around them and learn a worthy lesson from every situation, conflict, or failure,
no matter how insignificant or minor it may seem on the surface.
Let’s look at a few examples to illustrate how this awareness and mindfulness of our surroundings works:
Observation: Extremely wealthy people frequently organize charity events.
Insight: Vanity and hubris are rebranded as
humanitarianism.
Observation: A person is smoking a cigar in their electric automobile.
Insight: Human beings are inconsistent beings that
contradict themselves. Health needs to be a state of mind, not an accessory.
Observation: A lion hunts down the gazelle under the light of the setting sun.
Insight: Nature is equal parts order and chaos. Both
are essential for sustaining life as life ought to be.
Try to practice different ways to gather radical insights from your mistakes as well as your environment. Hopefully, this article through the essential characteristics and skills of a mindful individual will help you deal with mistakes as they show up and help in working on yourself for personal growth.
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